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Food for thought; It’s been suggested that if Australian fathers spent an extra 5 min a day with the children that $5 billion/yr would be saved. This would be in the areas of law (less juvenile crime), health (drugs), education (engaged) and industry (greater productivity).
What stops teenagers from “crossing the line” and making poor choices about the serious issues facing them in today’s society? The strong and effective “voice in the head” of their dad, or a father figure (granddad, uncle, etc), can often stop them from taking drugs, binge drinking, punching others, having inappropriate sex or becoming depressed.
Staying connected during the day.Send your teenagers fun text messages.Email the children, especially if you are away.Bring your children into work – tell them about your job and how it helps other people.
Use the time spent travelling to and from school to listen to your children. If you are driving, remove all distractors their schoolbags, books and all technology, put in the boot turn radio off and your phone. Set the right example – obey road rules, wear a helmet if cycling, etc – kids learn from your behaviour as much as from what you say
Discuss your beliefs with your children. Be aware that a father’s personal beliefs can have positive or negative effects on fathering, and recognise the impact this can have on your children.
Encourage your parenting partner: It’s really important for husbands to encourage their wives in their job of mothering, to praise them for their skills and hard work and for mothers to build up and encourage dads. John is really good at it. He continually reminds me of my worth and of how much he values my being at home as a mother to our children. – Julia Anderson
My father was a bit of a role model but he was more distant than my mother was. She was very insightful and had a much greater effect on me than my father. – John Inverarity
When it is too wet or too hot to go outside but you want to spend time with the kids, it’s tempting to just settle in front of the TV together and watch a movie. Here are a few other options to try:
“In our family as the children grew up we had a tradition of celebrating anything good that happened to one of them. Whether it was a school report, merit certificate, runs at cricket, joining the school band or anything really, we would have a celebration at the meal table. One of the children would have to stand up and propose a toast and make a small speech. Later as they got older we kept a bottle of champagne in the fridge for such occasions. It was done semi-seriously and the kids all learnt to be able to give praise and to speak in front of others.” – Ian Brayshaw
Make fathering as easy for yourself as possible by making sure you keep as fit and healthy as you can. Exercise regularly, eat properly, and get adequate sleep. Share problems and issues with other people, and get support when you need it – don’t imagine you have to cope with everything yourself.
Share a laugh
Telling jokes, watching a comical TV show or film together, or sharing a story of something funny that happened, are not only good for you, but they help build relationships and ease tensions.
Mother day: What is your role?
This Sunday (May 14) is Mother’s Day, a day for kids around the world to acknowledge and thank Mum for all the hard work she puts into raising them. Dads are expected to help decide on and purchase the gifts, assist with preparing breakfast in bed or another special meal, and generally make sure Mum gets a day off, right? Well, yes and no.
Here are a few other suggestions:
Ask the kids what they would like to do, plan trips with them